Whoopi Goldberg, the renowned actress and co-host of "The View," has once again shared her candid thoughts on marriage and relationships, admitting that she is "fundamentally a selfish person" and prefers "hit-and-run" hookups over long-term commitments. In a recent episode of "The Don Lemon Show," the 68-year-old EGOT winner opened up about her disinterest in getting married and the stigma surrounding expressing such feelings.
"I am fundamentally a selfish person and I've found that because I have a wonderful kid and a son-in-law and three grandkids and one great-grand[kid], that I don't have time for a whole lot of other people coming into my life," Goldberg shared. "Hit and runs are great, I don't mind those. But, you can't spend the night."
When asked by Lemon if her hookups "still happen," Goldberg emphasized, "Oh, yeah," and noted that she had to give herself "permission" to express those feelings due to the stigma around not wanting marriage or a traditional relationship. "You have this whole line of words that are stacked up in your head about what you are if you say a hit and run is where you want to be and you don't want to be married," she said.
Goldberg's stance on marriage was further highlighted in a recent episode of "Who's Talking to Chris Wallace?" on MAX, where she confessed that she does not have the energy for the kind of relationship that marriage requires. "I don't care how you feel. It's terrible," she said with a laugh. "You know, when you're married to somebody, you have to be invested in how they're feeling. I am not. I'm invested in my kid. I'm invested in her kids. I'm invested in my son in law. I'm invested in my friends. But I'm not invested in a relationship that would require as much as having a child requires and I know that that's not for me."
The actress has been married three times in the past, with her marriages to Alvin Martin, David Claessen, and Lyle Trachtenberg ending in divorce. In a 2011 interview with Piers Morgan on CNN, Goldberg admitted that she never felt in love with any of her three ex-husbands and tried marriage because she thought it would lead to a more normal life.
"What I know now is I don't want to live with anyone. I think I tried it with probably the right guys for other people. It wasn't them; it was me. I actually like living on my own," she told CNN at the time.
Goldberg's recent comments on "The Don Lemon Show" and "Who's Talking to Chris Wallace?" have shed further light on her personal views on relationships and marriage. She acknowledged that not everyone is meant to be married, but many people enjoy sex, and sometimes a "hit and run" is not a bad thing.
The actress's candid confessions have sparked discussions about the societal pressures surrounding marriage and the importance of individuals being true to their own desires and needs. Goldberg's openness about her preference for "hit-and-run" hookups and her lack of investment in a partner's feelings challenges traditional notions of relationships and highlights the diversity of personal choices when it comes to love and commitment.
