Getting back to the dating game after a bad relationship can be hard for some people. There are fears and worries that things may turn bad again that will suddenly cause a breakup. So if you are ready to get back on your feet and face the world again, here are some tips that will make you return to the dating pool.
After a breakup, people are confused about when they can return to dating again. Some experts say it is okay to go on a date as soon as possible, so they can face their fears and rebuild their self-esteem by finding a new romance. They also add that it is the best medicine to cure their broken hearts. If they let anxiety take its toll on them, it will surely bring them down, per the South China Morning Post.
However, there are also some other people that say going on a date again after a bad breakup is not a good idea. They believe that getting into a new relationship too quickly is an "unhealthy rebound" kind of romance.
"If you are just dating to numb the pain or to forget a bad divorce, you may well end up in a rebound relationship," matchmaking service for mature Hongkongers Meet Mozaic's managing partner and co-founder Jacqueline Chia says. She also adds that your return to the dating game depends on how bad your recent breakup had been, and the emotional baggage you have.
But if you already worked on yourself, fixed your emotions and the past issues of your bad breakup, and now have a healthy mindset, you are now ready to go on a date again. It is more likely that you will start to create a more positive romance and more ready to invest emotions and feelings in it.
There are also signs that you may be ready to return to the dating pool like if you think less about your past relationship. Also, if you find yourself imaging being on a date again, it just means that you are now ready and comfortable about the idea.
Bustle added that there are also some relationships that already ended even before the breakup takes place. Matchmaker and COO of The Vida Consultancy Gina Yannotta says that it allows people to heal while they are still in the romance. Once they split, there is a big possibility that they are already moved on and accepted their relationship's fate.
"The biggest sign that you're ready to date again is your desire to date again," a relationship and dating coach Brooke Bergman adds. If you feel that you are brave enough and ready to take the risk of breaking your heart again, you are all set to return to the dating game. There are also some people that feel confident to go on a date, but feel unprepared later.
Bergman explains it is a normal feeling, and it usually happens. But he suggests they should not give in to the fear, and face it.
